Was at a very busy playground with Isabella (nearly 5) and a couple of her brothers today. Was busy pushing her brothers on the swing when I looked over and she was sitting near the slide with a couple of football player looking fellas kneeling down and chatting to her. Especially one that was so tender with her (gave her a gentle stroke with the back of his little finger, a little chat, helped her up, etc). They were there with their kids and partners in a little group. Anyways a little while later I was on a piece of equipment with her and they glanced over and smiled at her. Was just really nice.
Anyway, I assumed they must have someone they know with Down Syndrome - it was that sort of unselfconscious engagement and warmth towards her. As I was leaving the larger of the two guys was near by so I said a quick hi and if he knew anyone with DS. He said no, but that he had done a couple of Buddy walks in South Australia and obviously spent the day with a few people with DS then which he thoroughly enjoyed. I asked how he came to be doing that and he said it was through a TV show he was involved with. I had to go and Bella smiled at him and said 'bye'. He smiled and said 'bye-gorgeous'.
There was just something exceptionally nice about knowing, what I suspect were two big burly football players or similiar (based on physique), showing such engagement with such a little person and all the way down at her level. There were lots of kids in the playground but they were obviously drawn to her. And why? Because they had been exposed to others with DS in a positive way.
Doing what we do with our kids, especially making it possible for them to engage positively with others, really does make a difference to how they are engaged in return.
I wish I knew who these guys were - esp the one I didn't talk to who looked very familiar (TV/Sport familiar) as he really got down and chatted to her. The other one looked a lot like Wayne Carrey but not as tall. I don't follow sports but wish I could nail who they were. It was just pure and lovely.
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